Harmony in muslim couples

Continuation from yesterday topic...harmony with Muslim couple.
2. They are grateful for each other
If there is one fundamental need that exists in
every single human relationship, it is the need to
feel relevant and appreciated. And there is no
other relationship where this need is as grossly
overlooked and abused, as in marriage. Why does
this happen? Is it because humans tend to take
things for granted, especially when they’re done
by those closest to them?
When you’re newly married, every single thing
your spouse does for you feels so special. As
time goes by, your husband going out to work
hard and earn for the family becomes normal;
and a few years later it becomes “his duty
anyway”. Similarly, every meal your new bride
cooks is delightful, then somehow the salt always
seems to keep getting lesser, till eventually she’s
“not doing anyone a favor by just doing her job”.
Sounds familiar? Oh yes, ungrateful Muslim
spouse speaking right there!
Happy Muslim couples live and breathe this
hadith in their marriage:
“He who does not thank the people is not
thankful to Allah.” [ Abu Dawud ]
What is not there to thank your spouse for? Here are
5 reasons to thank your spouse right now :
1. For providing you a roof to live under/for
making a home out of your house
2. For buying you clothes to wear/for making
sure you have clean clothes to wear everyday
3. For buying you the food you eat everyday/for
making delicious meals for you everyday
4. For being there to take you where you need to
go/for being there to take care of the house when
you’re away
5. For coming back home to you every evening/
for being the person you can come home to
everyday
Allah says in the Qur’an:
“… If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in
favor]; but if you deny, indeed, My punishment is
severe.” [ Qur’an: Chapter 14, Verse 7]
Our spouses are an immense favor and blessing
of Allah upon us: they are an irreplaceable source
of spiritual, emotional, mental and physical
comfort. Happy Muslim couples keep getting
happier because they simply implement the
command of Allah in the above verse: They are
grateful everyday for each other, so
Allah increases the happiness they find in each
other, just like He promised.
The verse doesn’t end there though. The last half
of the verse should send a chill down every
married person’s spine: “…if you deny, indeed, My
punishment is severe. ”
How many times have our egos stopped us from
acknowledging and appreciating our spouses?
How many times have we denied all the good
they’ve done for us through a single word or
sentence in the middle of a senseless argument?
Every conflict left unresolved, every hurtful word
exchanged and every baseless complaint is a
refusal to value one of Allah’s best gifts to us: a
spouse. It is a denial of a favor Allah has blessed
us with that many are longing for. And you don’t
have to wait for the Hereafter to bear the
consequences of such denial. Days of depression,
frustration, anger, spite, lack of barakah
(blessing), and even illness and hardships make
life living hell for those who refuse to be grateful
in their marriages.
Allah also says in the Qur’an:
“And as for your Lord’s favor, then discourse
about it! (i.e., proclaim it).” [ Qur’an: Chapter 93,
Verse 11]
So if you aren’t doing so already, stop holding
back and proclaim to your spouse how grateful
you are for them!
You and your spouse can start becoming grateful for
each other right now by:
thanking each other for at least one thing
everyday: you could do this through a text
message, a note in a lunchbox or on the fridge, or
just before you go to sleep at night (brothers, I
promise you will not decrease in height if you do
this )
exchanging a smile that says “thank you, you
mean the world to me”
saying “thank you/jazak Allah khayr” every time
your spouse does something for you
getting/doing small things for your spouse that
you know they will absolutely love
writing down things about each other you’re
grateful for in a journal and exchanging your
journals regularly: journaling makes you reflect,
realize and truly internalize what you’re thinking
about. There’s nothing better than internalizing
the gratitude you feel towards your spouse; and
there’s nothing more heart-warming for them to
read than what you’ve written from the depths of
your heart!

Harmony in the home: 10 tips for Muslim couples

What does it take to stay Muslim, married and
extremely happy today? As oxymoronic as that just
sounded, believe it or not, it’s absolutely possible!
Marriage, especially for Muslims, is a lot more
than having someone to call a husband or wife.
The marital relationship is an incredible blessing
and divine sign, as Allah says in the Qur’an:
“And of His signs is that He created for you from
yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in
them; and He placed between you affection and
mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who
give thought.” [ Qur’an: Chapter 30, Verse 21 ]3
The whole purpose of having a spouse is to find
tranquility in and with them; and our relationships
with our spouses have signs that
Allah is asking us to give thought to.
How are some Muslim couples finding this tranquility
in their marriage while many others seem to
be having a miserable time? What are those couples
whose eyes exude deep love and contentment
doing right in their relationships?
Here are the top 10 habits of Muslim couples
who’ve found tranquility and happiness in their
marriage:

1. They love each other for Allah’s
sake
What does it mean to love each other for Allah’s
sake?
It means you make the love and obedience
of Allah the basis and focus of your relationship
with someone else. It means you love someone so
much that you want your love for them to last
beyond this lifetime and into the Hereafter, where
you can live in eternal happiness with them
having earned Allah’s pleasure together. It means
you love someone purely because of how much
they remind you of Allah and help you get closer
to Him.
Hold it right there. I know what you just thought:
“but my wife/husband doesn’t remind me of Allah at
all.”
A lot of people who marry each other even for
primarily religious reasons end up disappointed
after marriage when they suddenly find their
spouse not praying all the sunnah prayers (like
they thought they would) or reading the Qur’an
everyday or the morning and evening adhkar or
fasting Mondays and Thursdays or being excited
about attending halaqahs or praying tahajjud or
doing something for the Ummah – like they
thought they would . Our own restrictions of
spirituality to acts of physical or outward worship
blind us from seeing how much our spouses
contribute to improving our character, which is an
unsurpassed form of spiritual growth, because the
Prophet says:
“Nothing is placed on the Scale that is heavier
than good character. Indeed the person with good
character will have attained the rank of the
person of fasting and prayer.” [ Tirmidhi]7
Your spouse has loved you for Allah’s sake every
time they have:
stopped you from harboring suspicions or ill-will
(about your boss or competitor or any other
annoying person in your life)
stopped you from backbiting (about your friends,
colleagues, in-laws (ahem))
helped you be more kind and gentle in your
speech and manners (to helpers, waiters, laborers,
siblings, elders and children)
helped you fulfill people’s trusts (by encouraging
you to get to work on time and do the best at
your job, to pay off your debts, to keep people’s
secrets)
helped you be more honest with yourself or to
others
helped you forgive someone and overlook their
faults
helped you become more generous or less
extravagant
helped you recognize and overcome the
weaknesses of your inner self
In all of the above and so many other times that
go unnoticed, committed Muslim spouses
consistently help each other get closer to Allah .
They stop each other from anything that may
lower them in the sight of Allah and constantly
help each other win Allah’s love.
Truly happy Muslim couples engage in winning
Allah’s pleasure together whenever and in any
way they can: they glorify Allah together in the
quiet hours of Fajr, they thank Allah in tahajjud
together, they make it a point to read a minimum
amount of Qur’an everyday, they do regular or
even random acts of kindness and charity and
they maintain loving and happy ties with each
other’s families.
To be continued.........

Natural healing from the Sunnah

Continue from last post...Natural health from sunnah.

Honey

 “honey, in it there is a cure for people.” –  Qur’an 16:69,

Hot Lemon and Honey

Take the juice of a lemon and squeeze a few tablespoons into a cup. Add a tablespoon of raw, pure honey. Then cover with boiling water. Stir it and then sip it. There is a cure in honey and lemon is a cleanser and a purifier. This mixture is great for sore throats, colds, or just as a general pick me up. Enjoy!

Did You Know?

If the value of lemons was more known, they would be worth $1.00 each. Lemons are very useful in both health and sickness. Hot lemonade is one of the best remedies for an incipient cold. It is also excellent in cases of biliousness. Lemon syrup, made by baking a lemon 20 minutes then squeezing the juice upon half a cupful of sugar, is excellent for hoarseness and to break up a cold.

Honey is the natural nectar and concentrated sweetness of flowers converted by bees to a golden rich syrup. The sour of nectar the honey is made from determines its color and flavor, and the best is the light-colored variety of honey. The best honey is unadulterated by beekeepers, and is collected from mountainous areas and trees.  It is then strained and has most of the impurities removed, except for some pollen and enzymes. Honey is produced by the worker honeybee who sucks flower nectar with its tongue like glossa and stores the nectar in its honey stomach. The bee regurgitates the honey and either stores it in cells or feeds drones. Honey has the ability to absorb and retain moisture, and is an excellent food preservative, and certain varieties of honey are used in treating wounds. (Medicine of the Prophet) Honey should be excluded from the diet of children under the age of one as they are more prone to develop botulism.

Honey contains 35 percent protein (one-half of all the amino acids), and is considered to be a complete food. It is highly concentrated source of essential nutrients, containing large amounts of carbohydrates (sugars), the B-complex vitamins, vitamins C, D, and E, and some minerals. It is used to promote energy and healing. Two tablespoons daily is sufficient. It is twice as sweet as sugar and therefore not as much is needed. Only unfiltered, unheated, unprocessed honey should be purchased.

Diabetics and hypoglycemics should be careful when consuming honey and its by-products. The blood sugar reacts to these substances as it would to refined sugars. However, tupelo honey contains more levulose than any other honey and is absorbed at a slower rate so many hypoglycemics can use this type sparingly. (Prescription for Natural Healing, Balch, J. M.D., and Balch,P.A., C.N.C.)

Honey is a natural source of energy that also offers a unique combination of nutritional benefits. Sugars are the fundamental unit of energy for our bodies. All carbohydrates, whether simple sugars or complex carbohydrates, must be broken down to glucose, or blood sugar, before our bodies can use them as energy. The sugars in honey are primarily glucose and fructose and although the body absorbs them in different manners, both provide the body with quick energy. Recent studies suggest that this unique mixture of sugars which occurs naturally in honey, works best in preventing fatigue and enhancing athletic performance.

For a quick source of energy and to reap the benefits of honey’s healthful properties, make honey part of your daily diet along with plenty of fruits and vegetables.  Add honey and fresh fruit to low-fat yogurt for an energy-sustaining snack or stir a spoonful of honey into a glass of water before your daily workout.
Olive Oil (Zayt Zaytun)

The olive tree is a blessed one in the Qur’an and an olive branch symbolizes a peace offering. Olive oil is extracted from the ripe fruit of the olive tree of the Oleaceae family. Its native climate is the Mediterranean basin, and its habitat extends throughout the Middle East and Southern Europe, and is found in the North African countries of Morocco and Tunisia as well. (Medicine of the Prophet).

Abu Huraira narrated that Allah’s messenger ( peace be upon him) said: “Use olive oil as food and as ointment, for it comes from a blessed tree.” (Reported by Imam al-Tirmithi.)

Drinking olive oil benefits in the treatment of food poisoning, moves the bowels, and expels intestinal worms. All kinds of oil soften the skin, and slow down the hair graying process. The salted water of preserved olives benefits skin burns, prevents blistering, strengthens the gums, and is good for herpetiform eruptions, and some allergic skin conditions. (Medicine of the Prophet)
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Natural healing from the Sunnah

Ibn al-Qayyim, the noted Muslim scholar stated that the principles of sound health are three:

–          preservation of good health

–          removal of harmful substances from the body and

–          keeping the body away from harm.

In a modern context this equates to eating wholesome nutritious foods, ensuring balance of quality and quantity, keeping away from things that are toxic and harmful to the body (and in modern society there are many), and striving to detoxify the body from the consequences of bad diet and lifestyle and exposure to harmful elements.

This article will examine aspects of natural healing from the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).
Black Seed (Habba-tu Sawda)  – Black cumin, fennel flower

Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him), narrated that Allah’s Messenger ( peace be upon him) said: “Use this black seed regularly, because it has a cure for every disease except death.” (Reported by Bukhari.)

The Black seed is the common fennel flower plant (Nigella sativa) of the buttercup family. This herb grows to about 16-24 inches and has finely divided foliage with blue flowers.   From this plant, comes a small black seed, which is also known as the blessed seed or black seed, and some call it the Arabian seed because of its habitat.  The Black Seed plant is also known by other names, and they vary between places.  The Black Seed has been used for over two thousand years.  It has been said that the Black Seed should be used regularly because it has a cure for every disease except death.

A special oil is extracted from the seed which is used in the preparation of various medical formulas.  It has been used to treat bronchitis and coughs.  Also it has been used to help increase body tone, as a digestive tonic, to quell belching, stimulates excretion of urine, dissolves wind, quells colic pain and stomach-gas colic, expels worms, benefits some skin allergies, stimulates menstrual period, and increases the flow of breast milk.  If you add a few drops to coffee or tea it can help calm the nervous system, help pertussis, dry cough, asthma, and bronchial respiratory complaints. If you take the Black Seed oil unmixed or undiluted it can produce gripe, and irritate the digestive system.  The Black Seed acts as an expectorant by stimulating the body’s energy and helping it to recover from fatigue and dispirtedness. (Medicine of the Prophet)
SIDE EFFECTS

Black seed is a safe and effective herb that can be used by almost anyone.  No irritations or side effects are caused when the right dose is correctly applied. Its benefits are obtained through consistent use, the effects are medium to long term. Black seed can be used in the treatment of diabetes mellitus or diabetes caused by an allergy, but it is recommended that the treatment be supervised because Black seed lowers blood sugar levels. Black seed should not be taken by pregnant women.

NUTRITIONAL COMPONENTS

Black seed contains over 100 valuable nutrients.  It is comprised of approximately 21% protein, 38% carbohydrates, and 35% plant fats and oils.  The active ingredients of black seed are nigellone, thymoquinone, and fixed oils. Black seed also contains significant proportions of protein, carbohydrates and essential fatty acids.  Other ingredients include linoleic acid, oleic acid, calcium, potassium, iron, zinc, magnesium, selenium, vitamin A, vitamin B, vitamin B2, niacin, and vitamin C.

The black seed is known in Arabic as the habbutual barakah (the seed of blessing).
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Natural healing from the Sunnah

February 6, 2016

By: Healthy Muslim

Source: Healthy Muslim

Ibn al-Qayyim, the noted Muslim scholar stated that the principles of sound health are three:

–          preservation of good health

–          removal of harmful substances from the body and

–          keeping the body away from harm.

In a modern context this equates to eating wholesome nutritious foods, ensuring balance of quality and quantity, keeping away from things that are toxic and harmful to the body (and in modern society there are many), and striving to detoxify the body from the consequences of bad diet and lifestyle and exposure to harmful elements.

This article will examine aspects of natural healing from the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).

Black Seed (Habba-tu Sawda)  – Black cumin, fennel flower

Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him), narrated that Allah’s Messenger ( peace be upon him) said: “Use this black seed regularly, because it has a cure for every disease except death.” (Reported by Bukhari.)

The Black seed is the common fennel flower plant (Nigella sativa) of the buttercup family. This herb grows to about 16-24 inches and has finely divided foliage with blue flowers.   From this plant, comes a small black seed, which is also known as the blessed seed or black seed, and some call it the Arabian seed because of its habitat.  The Black Seed plant is also known by other names, and they vary between places.  The Black Seed has been used for over two thousand years.  It has been said that the Black Seed should be used regularly because it has a cure for every disease except death.

A special oil is extracted from the seed which is used in the preparation of various medical formulas.  It has been used to treat bronchitis and coughs.  Also it has been used to help increase body tone, as a digestive tonic, to quell belching, stimulates excretion of urine, dissolves wind, quells colic pain and stomach-gas colic, expels worms, benefits some skin allergies, stimulates menstrual period, and increases the flow of breast milk.  If you add a few drops to coffee or tea it can help calm the nervous system, help pertussis, dry cough, asthma, and bronchial respiratory complaints. If you take the Black Seed oil unmixed or undiluted it can produce gripe, and irritate the digestive system.  The Black Seed acts as an expectorant by stimulating the body’s energy and helping it to recover from fatigue and dispirtedness. (Medicine of the Prophet)

SIDE EFFECTS

Black seed is a safe and effective herb that can be used by almost anyone.  No irritations or side effects are caused when the right dose is correctly applied. Its benefits are obtained through consistent use, the effects are medium to long term. Black seed can be used in the treatment of diabetes mellitus or diabetes caused by an allergy, but it is recommended that the treatment be supervised because Black seed lowers blood sugar levels. Black seed should not be taken by pregnant women.

NUTRITIONAL COMPONENTS

Black seed contains over 100 valuable nutrients.  It is comprised of approximately 21% protein, 38% carbohydrates, and 35% plant fats and oils.  The active ingredients of black seed are nigellone, thymoquinone, and fixed oils. Black seed also contains significant proportions of protein, carbohydrates and essential fatty acids.  Other ingredients include linoleic acid, oleic acid, calcium, potassium, iron, zinc, magnesium, selenium, vitamin A, vitamin B, vitamin B2, niacin, and vitamin C.

The black seed is known in Arabic as the habbutual barakah (the seed of blessing).

 Dates

Dates were the food that Allah provided for Mary after she gave birth to Prophet Jesus under the palm tree. Allah inspired Jesus, her blessed infant, and his future messenger to the children of Israel, in one of the early miracles of his birth to say to her: “Shake the trunk of the palm-tree, and it will drop ripe dates on you, so eat, drink, and comfort your eyes (with what Allah gave you) (Qur’an 19:25).

Abdullaah bin Ja’afar reported that he saw Prophet Muhammad ( peace be upon him) eating fresh ripe dates with cucumber (Bukhari and Muslim). Sometimes he also ate a couple of fresh dates with a drink to sweeten it. He also used to eat a couple of fresh dates for his morning breakfast and before attending fajr prayers. When he did not find fresh dates he ate dried ones.

Fresh dates stimulate sexual desire, increases semen, balances the constitution of people with cold temperament, and in general is extremely healthy and rich in benefits for the body, particularly where it is the staple fruit of the land. For those who are not used to eating it, fresh dates will break down and putrefy rapidly in the stomach, and they will generate excessive heat and boiling of the blood, causing extreme headache and imbalance of the black bile, and damaging the teeth, hence requiring balancing and adjustment of the humors through either food of cold temperament or through purgation. (Medicine of the Prophet)

It is also reported that Allah’s Messenger  ( peace be upon him) sometimes ate dates with butter, bread, or alone. Dried dates are moist in the first degree. Many of the benefits of eating dates are prominent for the dwellers of hot climates. As for the dwellers of cold climates, particularly those who are not used to it, eating dates immoderately can cause glaring of the eyes, headache, and damage teeth. These adverse effects can be overcome by eating almonds and poppies. (Medicine of the Prophet)

Source :Muslims villages
To be continued.....your comments is welcomed.

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